The Biggest Mistakes Parents Make During a Choking Emergency (And How to Avoid Them)

I've responded to emergencies where seconds mattered. One of the most frightening calls involves a child who is choking. The good news? Many choking emergencies can be managed successfully when parents recognize what's happening and respond correctly.

The difficult part is that panic often causes people to make mistakes, even with the best intentions. Here are some of the most common mistakes I see and what every parent should know.

1. Confusing Gagging With Choking

This is by far the most common mistake.

Many parents immediately assume their child is choking whenever they cough, gag, or make strange noises while eating.

In reality, gagging and choking are so different.

A child who is gagging may:

• Cough forcefully

• Make noises

• Turn red

• Spit food out

• Continue breathing

Although it can look scary, gagging is actually the body's natural defense mechanism.

A child who is choking may:

• Be unable to cry or speak

• Be unable to cough effectively

• Make little or no sound

• Have difficulty breathing

• Become blue around the lips

• Grab at their throat

• Eventually lose consciousness if the airway remains blocked

  
  

The biggest mistake?

Interrupting a child who is successfully gagging.

Allow them to continue coughing and clearing the object unless they develop signs of severe choking.

2. Using the Wrong Technique

One of the biggest misconceptions is that choking treatment is the same for everyone.

It isn't.

The correct technique depends on the child's age.

For infants (under 1 year):

• Five back blows

• Five chest thrusts

• Repeat until the object is removed or the infant becomes unresponsive.

For children over one year:

• Five back slaps followed by five abdominal thrusts, and repeat.

Trying adult techniques on infants can cause serious injury and may not effectively remove the obstruction.

Proper hand placement, body positioning, and force all matter. These skills should be practiced, not simply watched in a video.

3. Waiting Too Long to Call 911

Many people hesitate because they hope they'll solve the problem themselves.

Unfortunately, every minute without oxygen increases the risk of serious injury.

If a child has severe choking, activate EMS early.

Calling 911 does not mean you've failed. It means help is on the way while you continue providing care. If another adult is present, have them call immediately while you begin treatment.

4. Putting Fingers in the Child's Mouth

Parents often instinctively try to sweep inside the mouth.

Unless you can clearly see the object and are 100% confident you can get it, don't do it.

Blind finger sweeps can actually push the object deeper into the airway, making the obstruction worse. Only remove an object that is easily visible and can be safely grasped

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5. Panicking Instead of Following a Plan

Emergencies happen fast. Your heart races. Adrenaline kicks in. Fine motor skills decrease.

This is why having a simple mental plan is so important.

Recognize the emergency, and call for help. Use the appropriate choking-relief technique.

Continue until the object comes out or emergency responders arrive. Preparation helps replace panic with action.

6. Assuming It Won't Happen to Their Family

Many parents believe choking emergencies happen to "other people."

The reality is that infants and young children explore the world with their mouths and are naturally at higher risk.

Common choking hazards include:

• Grapes

• Hot dogs

• Popcorn

• Nuts

• Hard candy

• Marshmallows

• Whole blueberries

• Raw carrots

• Coins

• Button batteries

• Small toys

Knowing which items pose the greatest risk can prevent emergencies before they happen.

7. Thinking Watching a Video Is Enough

Online videos can be helpful introductions, but emergencies don't happen in slow motion.

Knowing about CPR and choking relief is different from actually performing the skills under stress with guidance from our instructors. Hands-on builds muscle memory, confidence, and the ability to stay calm when every second counts.

How EXO Workshops Helps Families Prepare

We believe preparation creates confidence.

Our private, in-home workshops are designed for parents, grandparents, babysitters, nannies, and caregivers who want to feel ready before an emergency ever happens.

During your interactive workshop you'll learn:

• Proper choking relief techniques

• CPR

• Allergic reactions and how to use auto-injectors ( EPIPEN or AUVI-Q)

• Seizure response and propert positioning

• Bleeding, falls, head injuries, and minor burns

• When to call 911

• How to stay calm during emergencies and how to work as a team at home

• Practical prevention strategies to reduce injuries at home

  
  

You'll practice the skills on real manikins, ask questions in a judgment free environment, and leave with greater confidence in your ability to respond together as family.

Prepared. Calm. Confident.

Ready to Feel More Prepared?

A choking emergency is something no parent wants to experience. If you're looking for a private CPR and First Aid workshop in your home, EXO Workshops brings the training directly to you.

Whether you're expecting your first baby or caring for multiple children, our goal is simple: help you feel confident before an emergency ever happens.

Book your private workshop today and invest in the confidence to protect the people you love.